不能为她穿上 ‘嫁衣’ 请别脱她的 ‘内衣’

Men... think about this.

If you cant give her happiness and forever ever after?
Will you still be with her?

For that very 1st time, would it be as special as it could be?
or would it be just sex?

The title says,
If you can't give her the wedding gown; please don't remove her lingerie.

“拥抱 睡觉 不做爱 那么这个男人是真的爱她...”
偶尔和朋友闲谈，谈到爱 谈到性，
他说他在网上看到这样一句话，“拥抱 睡觉 不做爱”。
我说 “如果是你，你能做到吗？”， 他说 “ 能”，
我，笑怎么能，真的能吗？
如果能，他就不会和别人刚恋爱就上床，刚上床就分手了，呵呵。。。

他告诉我世界上没有爱情，爱只不过是对依恋和习惯的一种修饰 因为寂寞才恋爱 ！
不聊了，话题结束，有些事是不适宜深聊下去的 。
回到家，却还一直想着这句话，
我问妈妈“一个人在一切条件都具备的情况下，
可能和自己心爱的人‘拥抱 睡觉 不做爱吗？’
”妈说:"能"，我问:"有可能控制得住吗，那他还算男人吗?!"
时间突然停滞了几秒,妈妈转过头和我说 "...那才是真男人..."

想到了一篇文章 。。。
和最爱的人在一起一定要做的十件事 ！
其中有一条就是 : 抱着她睡觉,但什么也不做！
什么是真爱?

爱不是性 不是欲 不是占有
如果你真的爱她,你想的不是怎么去占有她的身体,
而是会很小心翼翼的保护她,不让她受一点伤害,
哪怕是自己可能给的,也不可以！

只有出于真爱，你才能真正的设身处地的为她着想。
你才会在做每件事情前考虑到这么做会给她带来什么后果,
而不是简单的想着快感,想着占有,想着满足。

读了一篇散文，觉得有一段写的特别美 ：
"还记得那年暑假的一个晚上,我们坐在小镇河边的公园里,
傻傻的聊到凌晨3点,现在想起来心里总觉得那时侯特别美好,
在那棵桃树下，雨淅沥沥的下着,我们牵着手,我的手心里全是汗水,
但我舍不得放开,我想就这样一直牵下去,雨水淋湿了你的衬衫,
不经意间我隐约看见你湿透的胸口在夜色中象树上含苞欲放的桃花一样,
那时候我真想抱紧你,深深的吻着你,但是我没敢,是我没有勇气,
但我并没有后悔,因为那些美好的情节,
那段朦胧的初恋将永远永远地印在我的心上" ... ...

看到这里你的心中是否也有涌起一丝丝悸动?
是否也想到了一些事? 是否也想起了某个人? 我相信真爱,但我只相信一次 ！
任何人都是这样,心底总有一个永远也忘不了的她,那些清涩的故事,那些傻傻的举动 。 。 。
一旦那份至珍的感情结束了,人就变了,变的无所谓了,
变的世俗了,变的圆滑了,变的不再相信什么狗屁爱情了,
你还会像对待初恋女友那样,小心翼翼的保护着她的第一次吗?!

一次次的控制着自己挑战自己的自制力吗?
不会的,有那个必要吗? 甩了钱,一夜情有的是,做爱其实是件很廉价的事情,
如果你把它的实质只当一种情感的发泄,那它比你给的价钱更廉价,一分钱都不值 ！
如果你不爱她,大可不用考虑那么多,拍拍屁股走人呗,管她那么多,
愿意负责任,我负,不愿意负,我走人 .没有处男膜吧,呵呵。。反正我不损失什么。
女人就是衣服,随便换,天凉快的时候,我都可以不穿,有了钱有了权还怕没女人吗？
如果一个男人这样想了,是的,也许他可以拥有一切,但是----却永远无法拥有真爱了 ！
和每个人一样,也一定有一个女人住在他内心最深处,
只不过却也只能住在他自己的回忆中了,坐在一堆钱上的回忆中了 ... ...

真爱来的不容易
我们还年轻有些事情不是我们该享受的,我们也承担不起请珍惜,爱护身边的她
我们还年轻,学生时代的爱情相对于物欲横流的复杂社会是最真最纯的了，
如果你真的拥有了一份真爱，爱是寂寞撒的慌 。
当你们相爱时，一定慢一点上床，别以为脱了裤子就是爱！
如果这样都是爱，那么扣上皮带也就该拜拜。
做爱容易说爱难~！ 每个人都有初恋，初恋结婚成功率仅为千分之三！

当下大多男人会在婚前有过性行为，然而和你发生关系的女孩子成为你的新娘了吗？
没有？！冲动的惩罚更多的来自于女孩子，怀孕、流产、痛苦、伤心......
当你拥着心爱的女孩子的时候，你有没有想过，当有一天你离开她的时候，
你还能坦然的告诉自己，我曾经是爱她的，她是完整的。我给了她完整的爱？！
当你拥着初恋心爱的女孩儿的时候，望着眼前美丽的胴体，你有没有想过，
当有一天你结婚的时候，你心爱的女孩子告诉你，曾经她有过... ...
你会坦然的面对她，告诉她，没关系，你依然是我今生最美的新娘？！

而当你想起曾经的你的她的时候，你是那么爱她，而你没能给她穿上嫁衣，
你却得到了女孩儿最珍贵的东西，你能没有一丝愧疚吗？
如果你真心爱着她，请不要轻易解开你心爱女孩儿的衣服，
如果你真心爱着她，请不要轻易忘了你曾经的承诺！
如果你真心爱着她，请给她安全的臂弯，给她依靠！
如果你真心爱着她，请善待你们的每一天，让她幸福，让你们开心。

如果有一天，你将独自迎来日出和日落；
如果有一天，你的视线里再也找不到曾经的她的影子。
你却依然可以在你的天空里祝福远方的她过得幸福！
因为，你给了她完整的爱！！！！！

有句话：如果你不能给她穿上嫁衣，请停下脱她衣服的手 ...

http://www.facebook.com/notes/fen-xiang-sharing/bu-neng-wei-ta-chuan-shang-jia-yi-qing-bie-tuo-ta-de-nei-yi/396569952136

March 30th.

Amah.

Happy Birthday.

I still love you.
I still miss you.

<3

ketidak-romantisan aku.

ignore the title.
hehe.

dunno how to put it.

i was never an extremely romantic person.
i never really am.

in fact i'm nothing close being a romantic.
even being in a relationship i sometimes feel like i'm a guy.
i dun do much.
so often that i put my partner into the whole turmoil of "she doesnt love me anymore" after just a few months.

O.o

i'm one of those people who reckons that, if you're committed to a serious relationship.
it's more about the stability and something more grounded.
isnt it more about having someone who you know you can always count on?

but then again, i'm boring.
=.=

"the silliest thing is i can think of a billion ways to be romantic. i have a pretty good idea of what romantic is. very often i find myself just thinking, if i slipped him a chapter of a book i really liked, maybe he'd go and read it and make that happen. or if he overheard someone on the street saying something i always say, he'd think of me and smile, and send me a text telling me what just happened. or if he rummages through his room one day, and finds something i gave to him a long time ago, and decides to wear it out and tell the next person who compliments "Yeah she got it for me." or maybe one night after hanging out with the boys with some booze and all, he gets home, stares at his room, and suddenly wishes he could talk to me. and he'd call me in the middle of the night, well aware that i'd be sleeping, but he'd want to hear my voice anyhow.
- karen

when i read that paragraph in her blog, it kinda stunned me for a brief moment.
i know someone that did exactly what she just said.
i dated that someone for 3 years.

ultimately i wore him out by being a stone cold brick wall.
it's odd.
if i told you the stuff he did, i'm sure 10/10 of the gurls will melt and go "awwwwwww"

but i rmb-ed labeling him as "cheesy".
GAWD! i'm such a b*tch. or maybe i shud say a "i'm such a butch"
O.o


i remembered how u'd whisper to me "i love u" secretly & randomly in public.

how you'd suddenly hold me really tight from the back when i wash the dishes.

how you scribble my name all over the meeting sheets.

how u'd always buy me small small stuff from everywhere simply because the color/shape/the thing reminds u of me.

how anything u find u'll snap a picture n share it with me.

how u'd call randomly and tell me u heard this person say this particular phrase that made u think of me.

or a song on the radio u heard me humm the other day.

how u piggy backed me thru the fields after a rain when u brought me to see the stars at night.

how u remember every single thing i love to eat or crave.

random midnight calls after a long night with the boys, telling everything that happened and who said what eventho i was well asleep simply because u missed me.
the most amazing thing would be how u observe & notice what i do or look at automatically.

"let's go tahpao dinner"
at the shop...
"what to order a?"
"urrmmm... 1 vege, 1 bean curt and ... 1 curry lo"
"o.O curry? u dun eat curry oso. sot fuse a u?"
"kenot meh??"
"dowan la... u x makan oso."
"u masuk kedai the 1st thing u stared at was the vege curry wert! u dowan meh?"
:)


it's even more amazing that the respond to most of the things he said or did,
i said "waliu... so mafan. u very free meh?" or "eh i'm busy la. *hang up"

maybe in the end, i jus need to find someone who'd accept me for the butch that i am?? :P susah la macam tu. u care i care la, u dun care i dun care lo. mayb if u dun care i will care more?? O.o

6 inches of yummy goodness

all it takes...

is a 6 incher....

to satisfy my cravings....

...
....

.....
.......


*slurps*

*burps!*

bad dreams

they keep coming back.
reminding me of something i wish not to think about right now.

why is denial so hard?
cant i just ignore these issues till i'm ready to face them (or till they slowly fade away)?

i hate these dreams.
they bug me.

ape jadi weh???

alot of people has been asking.
EH!!! APE JADI WEH~~~ MANA PERGI??

it felt that I've been detached and missing for so long.
i felt so too.

it seems at time we get to absorb in what we're doing we lost touch of whats goin on around us.
or whats more important for that matter.

dun get me wrong, work has still been good.
i whine occasionally, but i can still say i love what i do thus far.
there's a lot more to learn, and i reckon it'll only be better.
down side?
yea... i spent a few more late nights in the office.
*slave drivers!!* ppl around me would say.
the thing is, thing could have been a whole lot more worst and yet ppl just sum times dun realize it!
I meet more people (not sure if i can interact well with all tho :S) but i'm trying
i try to do more stuff
i'm learning, and to me. it matters.
not how other people perceive my job to be. but how i perceive my own life.
:)

---------------------------------------------
but being pretty overwhelmed with work.
it's getting harder n harder to spend time doing other stuff.
hence LIFE gets so freaking tiring sumtimes...
:(

i miss friends.
i miss family.
i miss laughter.
i miss nature.
i miss outings.
i miss life!!

So here's what i manage to squeeze in :P

Hiking up Broga Hill Semenyih!
*out of your mind!/bonkers!* people would say.
seeing that i'm already tired n so worn out LOLz.
the plan went great.
the hike up was challenging and rather upsetting actually.
cause i was so out of shape, sleep deprived (no sleep at all) and probably not getting enough oxygen. ahahahhaha

Broga was suppose to be the "moderate climb" yet it took so long (and so many stops) for me to finish the 1st peak. The peaks after that was easier... did not manage up the 4th one tho.
I SWEAR I'M SO GONNA FINISH ALL 4 PEAKS AND WATCH THE BLARDY SUNRISE 1 FINE DAY!!

i went up with a bunch of sampat old school mates. funny we werent initially very close.
but heck, its a fun mix. :)
guess its never too late to ber-bonding.

the view was awesome.

even with the cloudy skies and NO SUNRISE. but it was still quite awesome.

me, mandy, seow yen, mei yen, poh leong, chin pey, ting yi, peiling, sue ee, OH we even has sue ee's monash friends! :)
family
spending somemore time with the kids and family.
brought nephew n niece to swimming sessions at bro's hse during the weekends.
its amazing how time flies.
ethan is already 3, elyssa is 2. gosh!


*inside joke: uncle at the pool thought they were MY kids. O.o
ELLO! i look so old meh???
shit~~~ my sis was laughing the whole way back.
=.=

Evaine Tan
Evaine Tan Lin Ying, born on 3rd March 2010, at 17:13, weight 2.74kg.
Everyone's doing great!
:)

She's such a tiny bundle of joy!
so kecik n fragile i dun even dare to be too rough on her LOLz.

adorable kan?
looks like my fb & photos are soon gonna be filled with pictures on ethan, elyssa & evaine!
berlambak.
right now, sis is rotting at mom with nothing else to do but blackberry the whole wide world.
*evil laugh*


icity!
jamjamjamjamjam
on chap goh meh we went!
so the !@#$%^&*!!! jam.
ggrr.

yehyeh oso followed.
fireworks & beautiful lights!!
the only thing i x suka.
berlambak byk org. OMG! i need air!!
it was fun la. jam packed but fun.
ethan suka sgt!
the lights n the toys!!
he was so excited.
running everywhere!!

lastly....
CNY
ahahhahaha.
visiting with the gurls.
how i miss them so.


as we went from months n months.
its amazing how we have grown n changed.
i still have some of our earliest photos. O.o
remind me to keep them locked up in a hidden secured SAFE!
ahahahah

from buddhist camps, to girls guides... to messing with them scouts & KRS people.
softball. :(
from marching and (ponteng-ing) classes.
from climbing trees and running amok on padangs.
from fights and arguments.
from boys and high school drama

gosh.

how far we have came.

it amazing how all of these cant stop but remind me how tiny weenie i am.
i feel so overwhelmed and humbled at the "MUCH-ness/BESAR-ness" of everything else.
:p

move on baby...

Top 12 Signs It’s Time To Move On From A Relationship

#1. When you live in past memories more than the present.
#2. When the relationship brings you more pain than joy.
#3. When he/she expects you to change.
#4. When you stay on, expecting he/she will change.
#5. When you keep justifying his/her actions to yourself.
#6. When he/she is causing you emotional/physical/verbal hurt.
#7. When the same situation/issue recurs even though you tried addressing it.
#8. When he/she puts little to no effort in the relationship.
#9. When your fundamental values and beliefs are different.
#10. When the relationship is preventing either of you from growing as individuals.
#11.When you stay on, expecting things to get better.
#12. When either of you no longer feels the same way about each other.

she's pretty good. she is. *sigh
http://celestinechua.com/blog/2010/03/top-12-signs-its-time-to-move-on-from-a-relationship/
*click*

Dave Navarro :)

I'm not a fan of Peta honestly.

But heck, Dave Navarro... i like.

:)

The guitarist who plays for Jane's Addiction and Camp Freddy.

His appearances with Red Hot Chili Peppers, Nine Inch Nails, Guns N' Roses & The Panic Channel.

Woots!!!

[parental guidance needed]

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咖啡 coffee

太浓了吧否则怎会苦的说不出话 is it too thick? so bitter until u can't say a word.
每次都一个人在自问自答 every time i'd keep asking myself,
我们的爱到底还在吗 is there still love, the one we had between us?

已经淡了吧多放些糖也很难有变化 is it too thin? even after adding sugar, there seem to be no difference?
不如喝完这杯就各自回家

maybe we shud just finish this cup and go home, u go ur way and i'll go mine.
别坐在对面欣赏我的挣扎 dun just sit there watching me struggle.

一场失败的爱情像个笑话 when love has failed, it feels like a joke.
热得时候心乱如麻 when its hot, theres so many emotions going thru our hearts.
冷了以后看见自己够傻 when its cooled down, u'd realized what a fool we've been all this while.
人怎么会如此容易无法自拔 how can it be so hard to self control and let go?

一场无味的爱情像个谎话 when love has become dry, it feels like a lie.
甜的时候只相信它 when its sweet, you'd believe everything it says.
苦了以后每一句都可怕 when its bitter, every single sentence seems so scary.
人怎么会如此难以了无牵挂

how can we finally let go and be free of all these?

过客？

难道真的只不过是个过客？

Love

i saw this in Ying's blog.

thought i'd repost it here.

at first sight, i love it.

i found it so adorable. especially the 1st n 2nd photo, top right is my fav!

if u enlarge it, there's tiny descriptions on each photo.

awwwww....

i dunno if i wanna laugh or cry right now.

complicated nye.

i just went through a whole bunch of fren's blogs.

most of them have a bf/gf LOLz.

reading thru the blogs, sometimes just made me raise my eyebrows abit.

how emotions run wild when the other half isnt there.

how depressed they'd get being alone.

hoe everything they did reminded them of someone dear.

is it really that BIG of an effect?

hmmm...

i remember being in love, all i felt was happiness.

yea u do miss someone, but HEY THERES SOMEONE THERE FOR U TO MISS!

y so depressed? :(

or am i getting to rational & analytical again?

yeeesh i dunno.

i strongly disagreed that a couple should be AN ITEM.

since long long time ago, doesnt matter if i have a bf or not.

i'm truly honestly believe, a couple should be 2 person being together; NOT that being a couple means everything has to be done together, we're just together; not physically glued together.

and i hate it whenever a person has become "Filix's girlfren" or "John's gal" or "Mandy's Guy".

ahahahha. Why?

when separate individuals become 1 single item? how is that so?

technically to me, it feels as tho, u've lost yourself. You've stopped being YOU.

you'd be ur boyfriend accessory, and he has become smthg like ur handbag!

buthen again, maybe i am just a very bitter single person.

(i dun tink so) but maybe...

maybe i'm jus jealous that everyone has a boyfren and i dont.

haha, that wat Mich told me the other that when i commented on this couple OOGLING over each other at the mall.

teehee... being loving, showing affection i'd understand. Heck, I'd even understand kissing in public just a display of affection. BUT... BUT that couple were practically grabbing each other in the mall! someone please re-affirm me that i'm not insane to think that they are being a LITTLE bit toooooo open regarding their display of affection.

get a room ppl.

damned cheap.

i'd buy ur condoms.

just dont make my eyeballs melt.

beh tahan~

最近。。。

情绪莫名的拉扯
我还爱你呢?
而你断断续续唱着歌
假装没事了

时间过了, 走了
爱情面临选择
你冷了, 倦了, 我哭了
离开时的不快乐
你用卡片手写着有些爱只给到这儿

真的痛了
怎么了, 你累了
说好的幸福呢？

我懂了, 不说了, 爱淡了, 梦远了
开心与不开心一一细数着
你再不舍
那些爱过的感觉都太深刻
我都还记得
你不等了

说好的幸福呢?
我错了, 泪干了, 放手了, 后悔了?
只是回忆的音乐盒还旋转着
要怎么停呢

life goes on

my gastric has gotten better.

my portions have been cut down like 50%.

i dun eat alot now. *sadness i miss food*

i take my meds.

hopefully it'll all be over soon.

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life working has started to sinking in.

it becomes overwhelming sometimes.

yet sometimes it'd be rather mundane & routine.

Z says he's thinking of doing an internship or try to get a job in creative.

i'm excited. he finally came back. i hope he does gets it.

Life back to crafting. Thats the juice of it all, where the excitement is.

*secretly laughs* i guess life at samsung is getting rather boring huh?

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henry has gone back to Melbourne.

:(

idiot refuse to let me know what time he'll be flying.

so that i cant go send him off.

sigh.

there goes a few more months/yrs of not seeing him.

he damn jaga me, sumtimes almost like my brother.

eventho i lecture him more.

after so many years, we've been goin round n round n round in circles.

and finally here.

after so many yrs, we'd look back and say "wow, thats alot".

thank god u were there.

all the best in Melb brrraaaddeeerrr....

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jack, gosh... its been so long.

when i heard the news i was concern.

i know how much she meant to you.

i honestly did not want u to go thru 2005 again.

perhaps, it really does take heartache to find ur frends.

if we didn't broke up, neither of us could have been the person we are now.

i dare say we learn smthg from each other, least i've learnt to be a better person becoz of u.

and eventho we're no longer together it doesnt mean that we no longer care.

i've witnessed u changed.

i've witnessed u grow.

from the bottom of my heart.

i'm proud of where u are now and wat u have achieved.

stay strong over there.

it's her lost for not appreciating.

trust me.

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speaking of heartaches...

sigh.

i'm in a mess right now when it comes to relationships.

gosh. *smacks!!*

i wish i can smack myself awake.

sometimes i do feel like i'm a selfish person.

i need closure, i need assurance and i need confirmation.

i always want to know, if its gonna work.

if its not gonna work or i'm nt sure if its gonna work, i'd rather not start anything at all.

why go thru so much when ur not even sure if it'll be smthg u want?

isis says that love should not need that much of rationalizing.

i dunno. maybe i do think so much.

i'm quite comfortable at where i am now.

so how?

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as i've told myself and so many other people.

relationships should be the least of my worries.

i'm 22. wheres the rush? if it comes it will. if not, i'm doing fine as well.

as promised, i need to spend this time mapping my life.

doing what i need to do now.

my family, my work & *new addition* my health. yikes!

at certain points of life...

it gets lonely.

i miss having someone around.

i miss getting hugs.

i miss roadtrips and makan trips with the cartoonz.

i miss singing and chit chatting with temple frens.

i need to re-organize.